You know what’s weird? When people talk about you like you’re not even there. My parents keep doing that with family here in Guanajuato. As soon as they greet us and we inevitably sit down to eat something, they ask about the other half of the family who stayed home on this trip. Well, they always stay home. Danny, Lori and Adrian have not been to Guanajuato in almost 18 years. They don´t know much of the Mosqueda clan because they don’t really visit LA, but they do know many of the members from our maternal family because they travel to LA pretty often.
¿Porque no vinieron tus hermanos?
I tell them that it’s not that they don’t want to come, it’s more that they don’t have the freedom to leave work all the time like I do. They also might not have the money. Lori and Adrian are also the least fluent in Spanish and they have problems expressing themselves in Spanish.
And then my parents begin to talk about why I like to come to Mexico. It’s like they don’t realize that I’m there and I can speak for myself. It’s pretty annoying.
definitely obnoxious, especially when something that you don’t agree with or never would say comes out of someone else’s mouth and is passed off as your opinion or past.
and worse? i had a friend that used to put me on the spot constantly. “k is x y and z, *and* she has a beautiful singing voice!” she thought of herself as supporting me and in some ways it did make me a little less timid about it, but i hated it so much because without fail, when she’d tell someone that, they’d immediately turn to me and ask me to sing something, because i’m a jukebox and all, and then i’d have to turn them down, and they’d always push, and.. sigh. i’m glad she moved. haha.
my question is- do the other family members direct clarifying questions to you, or to your parents?
Some family members used to do that to me when I was a teenager. I am not sure why, but I suspect that its because they were used to dealing with me as a child, and not as a young adult.
aye, i think they are just really proud of you and honored that you would grace them with your presence and time